25 thoughts on “Counselling Roleplay – Reflecting, paraphrasing and summarising only”

  1. I dont believe this demonstrates a good counselling skills… the
    counsellor appears to be using too much repeating techniques… its quite
    annoying. When paraphrasing u need to rephrase BOTH the cognitiv and
    affective message.

  2. @alisar87 Yes alisar87, spot on. This video demonstrates one technique in
    isolation and the subsequently unbalanced effect between counsellor and
    client.

  3. @iCounsellor -I think its quite difficult to decide..I myself coming of
    from long trauma and depression which I endured over the years without
    treatment. NHS GPs wud not think too much of my symptoms initially, till
    major breakdown n severe insomnia. Also one who is suffering never is in
    state of mind to explain things, mostly too shy or scared to share the
    actual facts, rather focusing on effects. Without actual perceptions,
    counsellors cannot feel it.

  4. @iCounsellor I have always thought that reflecting meant reflection of
    emotions..not just repetition or parroting i thought reflection is where
    you actually process the information you hear and summarize it using your
    own words. I could be wrong though and would appreciate it if you could
    give me more clarity on the matter. Thanks

  5. @111lulubell The exercise was to create short videos, each that
    demonstrated a tiny aspect of counselling technique isolated from others. A
    final video would attempt to combine techniques. Academically would focus
    on one technique, but also show how poor the counselling would be with that
    skill in isolation. This video doesn’t do anything “good” except repeat the
    words etc – it’s not meant to be a demonstration of a whole technique,
    which is what your original comment was criticising.

  6. @iCounsellor Thanks for your explanation, i’m sorry that you perceived my
    comment as a criticism, i thought i was just stating what i saw, i never
    made a judgement of good or bad, you did that yourself. I just was hoping
    to see a video of reflection, and when i saw the word reflecting in the
    title, i assumed that is what would be in it.

  7. I think initially this may seem to be extremely repetitive to an outsider.
    However I don’t think that is the actual case; the counselor essentially
    repeats what the client says, yes, but this may express the inner futility
    of the clients problems to himself, and to a damaged person that may be all
    they need. To see the pointlessness of their own ruminations and how
    unconcentrated they are in a realistic sense.

  8. This is what I don’t understand about counselling. He just repeats
    everything he says. How’s that supposed to help? Not meaning to be rude
    it’s a genuine question.

  9. It’s OK, don’t be concerned, the video’s description won’t highlight
    anything for you about what’s going on in the demonstration neither.

  10. This is out of context. Paraphrasing and reflecting are just two of many
    techniques used in counselling sessions. They are designed to help the
    client to open up and explore facts and feelings. They demonstrate that the
    counsellor has listened and understood what the client has said and give
    him or her permission to continue. Most importantly the client gains a
    greater insight into their own situation – as a prelude to identifying
    goals and actions.

  11. hes not just “repeating.” Many counselors do only rely on reflection,
    summarizing, paraphrasing (and some probing). I personally do not utilize
    this method. I find them to be ineffective. Many of the clients that I see
    (juvenile offenders, clients with ODD, CD, severe anger issues) internalize
    these “techniques” as the therapist “mocking” them. Dont get me wrong, I
    TOTALLY do believe that these techniques are useful, but they are over
    used.

  12. Hi. I think the goal (or my goal) is to use these specific techniques in a
    more creative and “natural” way. For instance, if you’re having a
    conversation with someone on a topic interesting to you, you naturally
    strive to understand. You might use natural phrases such as; Are you
    saying? Do you mean? Help me to understand? Say that part again? etc. What
    do you think?

  13. .. and if you’re having a conversation with someone on a topic interesting
    … to *them*? A counsellor is there to participate in the conversation,
    yes, but a section of therapists (not all of them) will be primarily lead
    by the client, not necessarily discussing a topic that is of interest to
    the counsellor.

  14. I’m close to an exam on person centred therapy and have been told that if I
    ask questions I will fail as it won’t be person centred therapy. I’ve had
    to re-assess my whole style of counselling. I guess if your style is person
    centred then the above questions would not be allowed under exam
    conditions. I have to admit that I didn’t know this until my second year.

  15. This video is not a demonstration of any specific model of therapy. As to
    your exam, well Carl Rogers was the founder of person centred therapy – so
    search for his video ‘Gloria’ and in it he doesn’t ask direct questions –
    although his use of “that’s what you’d like, isn’t it” and “if you can’t
    accept them in yourself, how could you be comfortable in telling them to
    her?” could be debated on whether he was making empathic reflections, or
    asking clarifying questions.

  16. This video is NOT INTENDED TO DEMONSTRATE GOOD, NOR HELPFUL, COUNSELLING
    SKILLS. It is intended to demonstrate just one technique in isolation from
    all the others – and how quickly the therapeutic practice becomes unhelpful

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