Reflections of the Celestial Body called – Earth
I dont believe this demonstrates a good counselling skills… the
counsellor appears to be using too much repeating techniques… its quite
annoying. When paraphrasing u need to rephrase BOTH the cognitiv and
@alisar87 Yes alisar87, spot on. This video demonstrates one technique in
isolation and the subsequently unbalanced effect between counsellor and
unless counsellors themselves gone through traumatic and mood disorders,
and have came out successfully they cannot guide..not reading books.
@peacemaker185 What about counsellors that practice non-directive
@iCounsellor -I think its quite difficult to decide..I myself coming of
from long trauma and depression which I endured over the years without
treatment. NHS GPs wud not think too much of my symptoms initially, till
major breakdown n severe insomnia. Also one who is suffering never is in
state of mind to explain things, mostly too shy or scared to share the
actual facts, rather focusing on effects. Without actual perceptions,
counsellors cannot feel it.
no reflection of feelings at all in this demonstration, just repeating what
the client says and slight paraphrasing
@111lulubell Yup – didn’t the title and description of the purpose of this
video give that away?
@iCounsellor I have always thought that reflecting meant reflection of
emotions..not just repetition or parroting i thought reflection is where
you actually process the information you hear and summarize it using your
own words. I could be wrong though and would appreciate it if you could
give me more clarity on the matter. Thanks
@111lulubell The exercise was to create short videos, each that
demonstrated a tiny aspect of counselling technique isolated from others. A
final video would attempt to combine techniques. Academically would focus
on one technique, but also show how poor the counselling would be with that
skill in isolation. This video doesn’t do anything “good” except repeat the
words etc – it’s not meant to be a demonstration of a whole technique,
which is what your original comment was criticising.
@iCounsellor Thanks for your explanation, i’m sorry that you perceived my
comment as a criticism, i thought i was just stating what i saw, i never
made a judgement of good or bad, you did that yourself. I just was hoping
to see a video of reflection, and when i saw the word reflecting in the
title, i assumed that is what would be in it.
@iCounsellor You’re more than welcome 😉 lol
I think initially this may seem to be extremely repetitive to an outsider.
However I don’t think that is the actual case; the counselor essentially
repeats what the client says, yes, but this may express the inner futility
of the clients problems to himself, and to a damaged person that may be all
they need. To see the pointlessness of their own ruminations and how
unconcentrated they are in a realistic sense.
>> this is the worst thing I have ever seen That’s the point. Thanks for
This is what I don’t understand about counselling. He just repeats
everything he says. How’s that supposed to help? Not meaning to be rude
it’s a genuine question.
Oh I see just read through some comments makes a bit more sense
It’s OK, don’t be concerned, the video’s description won’t highlight
anything for you about what’s going on in the demonstration neither.
This is out of context. Paraphrasing and reflecting are just two of many
techniques used in counselling sessions. They are designed to help the
client to open up and explore facts and feelings. They demonstrate that the
counsellor has listened and understood what the client has said and give
him or her permission to continue. Most importantly the client gains a
greater insight into their own situation – as a prelude to identifying
goals and actions.
hes not just “repeating.” Many counselors do only rely on reflection,
summarizing, paraphrasing (and some probing). I personally do not utilize
this method. I find them to be ineffective. Many of the clients that I see
(juvenile offenders, clients with ODD, CD, severe anger issues) internalize
these “techniques” as the therapist “mocking” them. Dont get me wrong, I
TOTALLY do believe that these techniques are useful, but they are over
Hi. I think the goal (or my goal) is to use these specific techniques in a
more creative and “natural” way. For instance, if you’re having a
conversation with someone on a topic interesting to you, you naturally
strive to understand. You might use natural phrases such as; Are you
saying? Do you mean? Help me to understand? Say that part again? etc. What
do you think?
.. and if you’re having a conversation with someone on a topic interesting
… to *them*? A counsellor is there to participate in the conversation,
yes, but a section of therapists (not all of them) will be primarily lead
by the client, not necessarily discussing a topic that is of interest to
This is just only one of counselling techniques demonstrated in isolation,
there isn’t any context here. It was part of a University assignment.
I’m close to an exam on person centred therapy and have been told that if I
ask questions I will fail as it won’t be person centred therapy. I’ve had
to re-assess my whole style of counselling. I guess if your style is person
centred then the above questions would not be allowed under exam
conditions. I have to admit that I didn’t know this until my second year.
This video is not a demonstration of any specific model of therapy. As to
your exam, well Carl Rogers was the founder of person centred therapy – so
search for his video ‘Gloria’ and in it he doesn’t ask direct questions –
although his use of “that’s what you’d like, isn’t it” and “if you can’t
accept them in yourself, how could you be comfortable in telling them to
her?” could be debated on whether he was making empathic reflections, or
asking clarifying questions.
This video is NOT INTENDED TO DEMONSTRATE GOOD, NOR HELPFUL, COUNSELLING
SKILLS. It is intended to demonstrate just one technique in isolation from
all the others – and how quickly the therapeutic practice becomes unhelpful
towards the end i saw a bit of additive empathy is that right?
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