I thought this guy did really try and did try to follow the client’s
content. However failed to track her core feelings of frustration,
isolation and confusion. Being in the counselling role can be hard for any
trainees and qualified counsellors alike.
This isn’t paraphrasing. The ‘therapist’ here is merely repeating what the
client says rather than reflecting her feelings. Part of paraphrasing is
using your own words. Also I the ‘therapist’ isn’t relaxed enough. His
posture is too still and I would have appreciated seeing him lean towards
the client at times.
one one hand that’s a nlp technique on the other hand its a hypnosis
technique : ) this guy help me realize I am really good at paraphrasing : )
yeah! for a shy person he’s probaly super non offensive….for a out going
person, hes probably out of a job…dead weigh..so the parroting, is hard
to take if your a creative one…other wise just another step in the right
direction of action and improvement. blessings. Hot Actress : )
why is he paraphrasing using her exact same words? he needs to say the same
thing but in a different way, using more insight! being on the leading edge
of what she’s saying!
I certainly feel that any computer based-program could do the same. This
“counselor” seriously “misses” what the woman actually is feeling, the
loneliness, alienation from her family, terror of rejection,…actually
without any significant thought, he’s missed the crux of paraphrasing what
this woman is REALLY saying…i.e., what she is NOT able to verbalize. He
is 3x down.
Paraphrasing is ineffective. In this example I would feel disconnected
after the 2nd guess. Try empathic listening. It is so powerful to use for
connection, healing, building trust and understanding. Empathic listening
connects with values (90%) and minimally feelings (10%). .
I think you can use this as a good learning tool. The counselor doesn’t
seem to be doing his job, but use it this way: Listen to the client, pause
the video, and paraphrase the way you feel is appropriate. then start the
video again where you left off. If the counselor’s response is close to
what you said, you’re not paraphrasing as correctly as you should lol.
OPPONENT ? This choice of description for a CLIENT couldn’t be less
appropriate !
man get alife
I thought this guy did really try and did try to follow the client’s
content. However failed to track her core feelings of frustration,
isolation and confusion. Being in the counselling role can be hard for any
trainees and qualified counsellors alike.
This isn’t paraphrasing. The ‘therapist’ here is merely repeating what the
client says rather than reflecting her feelings. Part of paraphrasing is
using your own words. Also I the ‘therapist’ isn’t relaxed enough. His
posture is too still and I would have appreciated seeing him lean towards
the client at times.
Paraphrasing and reflection of feelings is not the same.
one one hand that’s a nlp technique on the other hand its a hypnosis
technique : ) this guy help me realize I am really good at paraphrasing : )
yeah! for a shy person he’s probaly super non offensive….for a out going
person, hes probably out of a job…dead weigh..so the parroting, is hard
to take if your a creative one…other wise just another step in the right
direction of action and improvement. blessings. Hot Actress : )
i have a mock counselling tomorrow and this helps *thumbs up*
why is he paraphrasing using her exact same words? he needs to say the same
thing but in a different way, using more insight! being on the leading edge
of what she’s saying!
so poor .not a good therapist
very poor this is parroting not paraphrasing his posture is even worse this
should be on the not do list it even feels wrong
Is She going out with you Mr Counselor?
This is a good ‘how-not-to’ vid. Well done!
hahaha – i wonder what Freud would make of that slip of the tongue b the
counsellor at 3mins 30 secs… “so you feel s.fat…sad and frustrated” 😛
Very poor example, I agree, this should be entitled what not to do as a
therapist.
I certainly feel that any computer based-program could do the same. This
“counselor” seriously “misses” what the woman actually is feeling, the
loneliness, alienation from her family, terror of rejection,…actually
without any significant thought, he’s missed the crux of paraphrasing what
this woman is REALLY saying…i.e., what she is NOT able to verbalize. He
is 3x down.
Paraphrasing is ineffective. In this example I would feel disconnected
after the 2nd guess. Try empathic listening. It is so powerful to use for
connection, healing, building trust and understanding. Empathic listening
connects with values (90%) and minimally feelings (10%). .
not the best video I have seen. i dont even think it is paraphrasing
he sounds like a parrot!! :-p
I think you can use this as a good learning tool. The counselor doesn’t
seem to be doing his job, but use it this way: Listen to the client, pause
the video, and paraphrase the way you feel is appropriate. then start the
video again where you left off. If the counselor’s response is close to
what you said, you’re not paraphrasing as correctly as you should lol.
I think you ought to date the white guy, because you repeat the same theme
so much you must be crazy about him!!!
Terrible example. Utter garbage. Exactly what gives counseling a bad name.
Worst example for studying, he doesn’t even seem interested, just repeating.
Patient: “I need to have some goals” – the poor girl is counselling herself
because he’s a fucking parrot.
This Guys like a noddy dog in the window of a car
I couldn’t watch it all. Did she get up and walk out?? He is a great
example of what not to do. Seemed so disinterested in what she was saying
:-(